"I spank you because I love you, I love you that's why I spank you"

Parenting has been one of the most controversial topics in our nation, the lack of parenting in our society has caused it to become a social problem.

I believe that true parenting comes from the heart. There is no book that will tell you how much doses of love you are to give to children depending on their age, behavior, cognitive development or economic status.

As Latter-day Saints we believe that "All people who come to this earth and are born in mortality had a pre-exisitng, spiritual personality as the sons and daughters of the Eternal Father." (Joseph F. Smith)

Beyond Spiritual personality influences, a growing body of evidence suggest that biological characteristics play a role in children's disposition and temperaments in ways that interact wiht environmental influences.

Rearing Children in love and Righteousness

• Righteous parenting- charity, gentleness, kindness, long-suffering, persuasion and appropriate discipline in a warm and nurturing relationship.

Parenting Styles:

• Coercive parenting- parents deride, demean, and diminish children and teens by continually putting them in their place, putting them down or mocking them, even holding power over them. the home environment is hostile, it is often a place where frequent spanking, yelling, criticizing and forcing occurs. this is linked to  being anti-social, withdrawn, and delinquent behaviors. these children have known that through hitting and physical harm you get the actions you desire, they most frequently will become abusive parents and husbands.
• permissive parenting- parents over-indulge their children, they neglect them by leaving them to their own devices. Children are considered equal to parents in their rights but not in terms of responsibility. these parents tend to avoid using their authority to control the behavior of their children. They give their children to much liberty without helping them or giving them advice. They keep at low, demands, responsabilities  and restrictions. They don't establish patterns of meal times, bedtimes, play and homework times. it has been shown that these children will have a difficult time respecting others, coping with dificulties. They have lower rates of depression, and anxiety as compared with coercive parents but they tend to do lower academically. 
• Authoritative parenting- THIS IS THE BEST TYPE OF PARENTING. They try to establish limits with the children but also provide much love. they do place restrictions on their children's actions to teach them responsability. They look for every opportunity to teach their children. The foster a positive emotional connection with each of their children. These children do better in school, they are less aggressive, less likely to engage in premarital relations, drugs and alcohol. They are more self controlled. 
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